Maintaining a meaningful relationship with your loved one while being a full time carer

Balancing caregiving responsibilities with maintaining a meaningful relationship with your loved one can be tough, but it is essential for both of you. The change in dynamic of a relationship can be especially hard for husbands and wives and partners but equally the role reversal in a parent child relationship can be difficult to manage. We have put together some things to think about to help you maintain your relationship while being a caregiver

Communicate openly and honestly

Effective communication is the foundation of any strong relationship, and it becomes even more crucial when caregiving. Open, honest conversations about feelings, needs, and boundaries can prevent misunderstandings and resentment. Set aside time each day to talk, even if it’s just for a few minutes. Use this time to share your thoughts, listen to your loved one, and address any concerns.

Think about a routine

Establishing a routine can provide structure and a sense of normalcy for both you and your loved one. This doesn’t mean every day has to be the same, but having a predictable schedule for meals, activities, and rest can help reduce stress and make caregiving tasks more manageable. Within this routine, carve out time specifically for bonding and enjoying each other’s company.

Take Care of Yourself

Self-care is not selfish; it’s necessary. Ensure you are looking after your own physical and emotional health. This might include regular exercise, healthy eating, sufficient sleep, and taking breaks when needed. A well-cared-for caregiver is more capable of providing care and maintaining a positive relationship.

Share Activities

Continue to do activities that you both enjoy. Whether that is watching a favourite TV show or film, playing a game, going for walks, gardening, or simply reminiscing about good times, shared activities can strengthen your bond. These moments of connection can provide joy and respite from the daily caregiving routine

Dorothy And Duck

Set Boundaries

Understand your limits and communicate them clearly. Setting boundaries is crucial so that the caregiving role does not overwhelm the relationship. It’s okay to say no to certain tasks or to delegate responsibilities to others when needed.

Celebrate Small Wins

Acknowledge and celebrate small achievements and good days. These moments of positivity can boost morale and reinforce the bond between you and your loved one. Recognise the effort you both put into maintaining the relationship and caregiving duties.

Embrace flexibility

Flexibility is key in caregiving. Things won’t always go as planned, and being able to adapt can reduce stress. Be open to changing routines or trying new approaches to make caregiving more manageable and your relationship more fulfilling.

Find out about your loved one’s condition 

The more you know about your loved one’s condition, the better equipped you will be to care for them. Finding organizations and support groups can also help you to understand their needs and challenges. This knowledge can also empower you to advocate for their needs and improve their quality of life

Consider Respite Care 

Feeding Horses

Don’t hesitate to use respite care to take a break. Respite care can provide temporary relief and give you time to recharge. It also offers your loved one an opportunity to interact with others, which can be beneficial for both of you. It’s also an opportunity to just focus on the activities you enjoy with your loved ones without the caregiving responsibilities. If you are considering respite care then find out more about respite on the Huntington and Langham Estate by getting in touch.

Being open and honest about your feelings, taking care of yourself and making time to still enjoy shared activities together, you can continue a meaningful and loving relationship while fulfilling your caregiving responsibilities. Remember, it’s okay to seek help and take time for yourself—doing so can make you a better caregiver and a more present, loving partner, family member, or friend.

June 2024 Newsletter from the H&L Estate

Like many families we are getting ready for the school holidays and planning a series of activities, days out and trips away to entertain the children.  At this time of year we are often contacted by local families who have a family member living with Dementia, for advice about suitable activities to all enjoy together, so have shared this in our latest website article.

June has been a wonderful month with the warmer weather, everyone is delighted to be able to spend time around our grounds with family and friends.

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May 2024 Newsletter from the H&L Estate

Our focus throughout May has been supporting Dementia Action Week, which is a cause very close to our hearts.   Involving our residents from Langham Court was an important part of this event and they did a great job of finding nostalgic items at a local car boot sale for the Sensory Trail, which we held around the Estate.

Being part of the wider Greyshott community is also important to us all here at H&L and we had a wonderful day meeting old and new friends at this years village Fete.  Some less welcome visitors to Huntington House this month, was a swarm of honey bees who took residence in my office ceiling, before being safely moved to a new hive in the garden!

For anyone at the beginning of their journey of moving into residential care, we know it can be overwhelming when it comes to the subject of finances, so have compiled a useful guide to funding options, which is detailed below and available on the website

Sensory trail for Dementia action week

 

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A guide to funding residential and nursing care in the UK

Funding residential care in the UK can be complex and daunting for first timers, due to various factors, including financial considerations, eligibility criteria, and navigating the healthcare system.

Our guide to funding hopes to offer guidance and advice on the key considerations to be taken into account and provide useful links for further reading.  We are also on hand to help answer any questions via email huntington@hlestate.co.uk or phone 01428 604600

What are the 4 main funding options for residential care?

A move into residential care in the UK can be a significant financial commitment, however there are various options available to help cover the costs.  Whether you’re arranging care for yourself or a loved one, understanding the funding options is essential for making informed decisions.

Dementia Tailored Activities

Here’s a comprehensive guide to the different funding options for residential and nursing care in the UK, including self-funding, NHS Continuing Healthcare funding, and NHS Funded Nursing Care.

Self-funding

Is the most straightforward option if you have sufficient savings, assets, or income, to pay for your care privately. That said, before starting to arrange a move into residential care, it’s essential to assess your financial situation accurately, especially if you’re planning for long-term care.

It is advisable to seek independent financial advice to help manage your assets effectively and plan for future care costs, taking into consideration your savings, investments, pension, property, and any other assets you may have.

Local Authority/Council funding

Is a means tested option for funding some or most of the care home fees based on having capital assets between £14,250 and £23,250. There is also the option of a deferred payment scheme, whereby the council pays for the care home and it is repaid later from the sale of a home or from an estate. Anyone with savings of over £23,250 won’t be eligible for council funding (rising to £100,000 in October 2025 and the lower tier to £20,000).

The council must ensure that the overall cost figure it calculates, called the ‘personal budget’, is high enough to meet the cost of at least one suitable care home.  Based on a care needs assessment if the conclusion is care in a care home is required, a means test will work out the level of support on the costs given and what an individual needs to contribute.

NHS Continuing Healthcare (CHC) Funding

Is available for individuals with complex health needs who require ongoing care. This funding covers the full cost of care, including accommodation, for those eligible. To determine eligibility for NHS CHC funding, individuals undergo a thorough assessment of their care needs by a multidisciplinary team of healthcare professionals. It is important to note that any funding is based on the individual’s primary health needs rather than their financial situation.

The assessment considers the following factors to determine eligibility for NHS CHC:

  • Nature of needs: The primary consideration is the nature and complexity of the individual’s healthcare needs. This includes assessing the level of support required for tasks such as mobility, communication, nutrition, and continence.
  • Intensity of needs: Taking into account factors such as the frequency and duration of interventions required to manage their condition.
  • Complexity of needs: Including any underlying medical conditions or cognitive impairments, is considered. This may involve assessing the need for specialist medical interventions or ongoing monitoring.
  • Unpredictability of needs: Including the risk of acute deterioration or sudden changes in health status that require immediate intervention.
  • Evidence-Based Decision: Gathered from various sources, including medical records, care assessments, and input from healthcare professionals and caregivers.
  • Decision-Making Process: Following the assessment, a decision is made by the multidisciplinary team regarding the individual’s eligibility for NHS CHC. If eligible, the NHS will fully fund the individual’s care needs, including accommodation costs if they are in a care home setting.

If you believe you or your loved one may be eligible for NHS CHC funding, you can request an assessment from your local Clinical Commissioning Group (CCG) or healthcare provider.

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NHS Funded Nursing Care (FNC)

Is a contribution towards the nursing care costs for individuals who require nursing care in a care home.

The current standard rate for NHS FNC is set by the government as £235.88 per week (standard rate) and is paid directly to the care home to contribute towards the cost of nursing care provided. Eligibility for NHS FNC is assessed as part of the overall assessment for NHS Continuing Healthcare.

The criteria for NHS FNC eligibility include:

  • Need for Nursing Care: The individual must have been assessed as needing nursing care, typically provided by a registered nurse. This may include tasks such as administering medication, wound care, and other clinical interventions.
  • Living in a Care Home: To be eligible the individual must be living in a care home registered to provide nursing care. This ensures that the funding is used to support the costs associated with nursing care provision.
  • Assessment Process: Eligibility is typically assessed as part of the overall assessment for NHS CHC as described above.
  • Funding Contribution: If eligible, the NHS will make a standard contribution towards the individual’s nursing care costs, which is paid directly to the care home.

If an individual is not eligible for NHS CHC but requires nursing care, they may still be eligible for NHS FNC.

What are the personal financial and legal considerations for funding residential care

Everyone’s personal financial and legal situation is different with considerations such as estate planning, power of attorney arrangements, and tax implications.

Understanding these factors, by seeking appropriate legal and financial advice is crucial for making informed decisions.  These professional are also able to provide guidance on which funding option applies to your situation.

When looking for fund support, this will involve a detailed financial assessment of the individuals personal circumstances including savings, assets, income, and property ownership. There are quite complex rules surrounding financial assessments, which is why it is good to get assistance to understand how assets will be treated in the process.

Here are five key rules surrounding financial assessments, to be aware of:

  1. Treatment of Savings and Investments – The value of savings and investments above a certain threshold (known as the capital limit) may be taken into account when determining an individual’s contribution to care costs. The current capital limit for England is £23,250 (as of April 2022). Individuals with savings and investments above this threshold may be required to pay for their care in full or contribute towards the cost.
  2. Treatment of Property – In England, if an individual owns their own home and moves into residential care, the value of the property may be included in the assessment. However, there are certain exemptions and disregards that may apply, such as if a spouse or dependent relative continues to live in the property or if the property is deemed to be disregarded for certain reasons (e.g., it is still occupied by a carer).
  3. Income Considerations – Income, including pensions, benefits, and any other regular payments, are considered. Income above a certain threshold may be used to contribute towards the cost of care. However, individuals are entitled to keep a certain amount of their income as a personal expense allowance (PEA), currently at least £28.25 per week.
  4. Treatment of Trusts and Gifts – If an individual has transferred assets into a trust or given away assets within a certain timeframe before needing residential care, this may be subject to scrutiny as part of the assessment. Local authorities have the authority to investigate and potentially deem such transfers as deliberate deprivation of assets, which could affect the individual’s eligibility for financial support.
  5. Deprivation of Assets Rules – These rules are in place to prevent individuals from deliberately reducing their assets to avoid paying for residential care. If it’s determined that an individual has deliberately deprived themselves of assets to avoid paying for care, the local authority may still take those assets into account in the financial assessment. Deliberate deprivation of assets can include actions such as transferring assets into someone else’s name or giving away assets without receiving adequate compensation in return.

We recommend families receive independent advice from financial advisors and legal experts, who can provide up to date guidance on how assets are treated in the assessment process and help them understand their options for funding care.  They can also provide information on Care Fees Annuities (or Immediate Needs Annuities, as they’re sometimes called), designed to cover the shortfall between your income and the cost of your care for the rest of your life. The income is tax-free and paid directly to the care provider.

Additional tips when funding a move into residential care:

It is important to research the variations in the costs by different care providers

The cost of residential care can vary significantly depending on factors such as location, the level of care needed, facilities provided, and the type of care home chosen.

There is also the differing pricing models to consider, from the full transparent all inclusive fee approach we favour, to the base cost plus paid by hour model of some of the larger chains, it is important to understand these cost variations, so not to be surprised by steep increases as an individuals care needs increase over time.

Delicious Meals At H&L Estate

At the Huntington and Langham Estate, we are consciously not the lowest cost provider of Residential, Nursing and Dementia care in Hindhead, but we are transparent with no hidden extras from day one.  This is because we are confident that our level of care exceeds that of other providers, with a higher ratio of flexibility and time provided to residents living in our care based on their needs not our schedule.

Do your homework and understand the application and assessment processes.

Applying for a place and the funding for residential care often involves navigating complex application processes, including completing forms, providing documentation, and undergoing assessments.

We often have families come to us for the first time hoping to place a relative within a couple of days, but there are strict rules from the care quality commission in place, which we need to follow to complete a care assessment before new residents can move in.

“Having never been involved in having to sort out any care home facilities before it was a very steep learning curve. I naively thought that respite care, for my weekend away, could be organised very quickly, but soon learned that it isn’t the case” Husband of Langham Court Resident,     

Read more about his experience

When seeking funding from a 3rd party, this can also take time and individuals and/or their families may need guidance to ensure they submit accurate and complete applications to maximize their chances of receiving funding.

Keep up to date with changes in regulations relating to care funding.

Regulations surrounding funding for residential care can change over time, impacting eligibility criteria, funding rates, and application procedures. For example the care cap of £86,000 due to come into force in October 2023 has since been delayed to 2025.

Staying informed about these changes and understanding how they may affect funding options is essential for individuals and families navigating the care system.

Sources of information include:

Don’t underestimate the emotional and practical impact.

Funding residential care often involves emotional and practical considerations for individuals and their families, such as coping with the transition to care, choosing a suitable care home, and ensuring the quality of care provided. Balancing these considerations with financial constraints and funding options can add complexity to the decision-making process.

Long-term care planning is essential for ensuring that you or your loved one receives the appropriate care without financial strain. Start planning as early as possible to explore all available options and make informed decisions.

The Paddock

We have lots of useful advice and information available on our website latest news pages from the team and families of residents who will have experienced the same journey.

Click Here to Download the Guide to Funding 

Sensory Trail supporting Dementia Action Week

In support of Dementia Action Week 2024, The Huntington & Langham Estate are opening their grounds for a Sensory Trail on Saturday 18th May from 10am to 4pm. The trail consists of nearly a kilometre of wheelchair-accessible gravel paths through grazing fields of sheep and horses and wildlife-rich woodland.

Along the trail there will be garden-related memorabilia to spot and handmade crafts to catch your eye while listening out for the sounds of the various avian visitors to the Estate, including the tapping of a hungry woodpecker and the screech of a soaring buzzard.

Dementia Action Week

The trail will take you to the lakeside pavilion or the covered picnic benches outside the Shepherd’s Hub tearoom where you are welcome to sit for a while. There will be hot and cold drinks available from the Sherpherd’s Hub for a small donation to Alzheimer’s Society, and you are welcome to bring your own picnic if you wish.

In the morning, between 10am to 12noon there will also be opportunities to take part in some dementia-friendly and family-friendly activities, including mindfulness moments with Kat from Creating Kinder Kids, gentle walking exercise sessions with Jo from STOMP Fitness, and rides around the Estate on the Cycling Without Age electric-assisted tricycle. And in the afternoon, there will be trips available in the Estate’s own adapted electric buggies.

No need to book, just turn up on the day and enjoy the Estate.

April 2024 Newsletter from the H&L Estate

We are delighted to share the news of the recent renovation of what is now one of the largest rooms in Huntington House, complete with wet room and views across the valley, included this month is a virtual tour, where I share some of the history of this part of Huntington House.

What a wonderful day trip in April The sun shone and it was warm enough for ice creams during our historical trip to see Arundel Castle!  The gardens are looking fabulous with tulips in abundance for the annual festival. Everyone enjoyed seeing the glorious colours in the gardens and the stunning castle.

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March Newsletter from the H&L Estate

When we first opened Langham Court, one resident commented that it was wonderful to feel of some use, and it has really stayed with me and remains at the heart of what we do across the Estate. Within Langham Court, The Butterfly Approach embeds this into our care culture.

Throughout March there have been great examples of the varied ways in which the team embrace the benefits of empowering our residents to not only regain confidence through the meaningful experiences we have shared, but embrace new skills and share in fun times together.

march news

 

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Excellent Care in Beautiful Countryside

Turn onto Huntington Drive and wind your way along the shady tree-lined track you’ll experience a sense of calm and well-being like no other as you drive along and the wooded track opens onto 30 acres of the most beautiful Surrey countryside.

The H&L Estate Drive

Country living in Residential Care

With residents coming from their own homes in the countryside or having moved to the country for residential care leaving London and the surrounding boroughs, The Huntington and Langham Estate is a home away from home.

With wide open spaces and accessible grounds, all set in our picture-perfect Estate, it’s no wonder that many of our residents report moving in with us as being a lifestyle choice, as well as the best care decision they could make.

Charlie Hoare MD, explains ” We often get residents choosing the Estate primarily on the location and surroundings.  One gentleman – a former racehorse trainer – was living with Dementia. His family had been to a number of local homes, but what clinched the decision to move to the estate for him and his family was that he could sit on the terrace and look out at our paddocks.  On his first visit to us, as he watched our horses and ponies, he became animated as he talked to our team and shared memories of his working life”.

The Paddock

Acres of space to enjoy.

Being situated within towns, many care homes have limited outdoor space for residents to utilise, as they place a premium on including additional rooms and parking. That’s not an issue for us. We have 30 acres of prime countryside to delight and entice you into the fresh air!

Our Estate is wheelchair accessible with pathways throughout the woods, out to our lake and Shepherd’s Hut, where morning coffee or afternoon tea can be taken. When your family and friends come to visit, you can take them to meet ponies, sheep and other wildlife.  This is a big hit with residents’ grandchildren.

Accessible Pathways around the Estate

In the summer months, groups of residents often sit under the pergola by the lake to have afternoon tea. If you can’t get there under your own steam, our Estate golf buggy will take you there. In the winter, the south-facing terraces of both homes offer a place to sit bundled up cosy and warm on dry days, watching the beauty of our surroundings as the seasons change.

Alfresco dining whatever the season

A fabulous place to work

Our team also love working in such beautiful surroundings. They say that being able to take breaks and lunchtime walks together and with residents is a total joy and fantastic for their mental health.

“If you only want the best care for your loved one, go here! Truly worth a visit for you to experience the incredible culture and special way in which they care for your family member, every day. I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend Huntington & Langham to anyone who is looking at residential care options for general needs, more complex needs and also dementia needs. Beautiful homes, beautiful grounds, beautiful people” Steph Gentle former team member

The power of nature

Year-round, there are a myriad of health benefits for older adults spending time outdoors with sunlight and vitamin D vital for physical and mental health.

Outdoor activity and movement are excellent for preserving muscle mass and improving immunity and balance. Research has shown that going outdoors has similar effects to meditation and can positively influence energy levels and memory, reduce feelings of depression and anxiety and boost mood.

We encourage all our residents to take an active part in the Estate, continuing hobbies they enjoyed at home like gardening, exercising, relaxing in the fresh air or even helping out with feeding our Hens!

Outdoor hobbies

Our acres of beautiful grounds are a massive draw to residents and their families; the cherry on the cake is the outstanding care and love that every resident receives.

At the Huntington & Langham Estate, we provide luxury care across our two specialist care homes. Family-owned and run, we offer dignified, compassionate and personalised care to our residents, giving them the nurturing support they need to continue living full, independent and meaningful lives. We are Butterfly and Dragonfly accredited.

To arrange a visit to the Estate and tour our homes and grounds, please call 01428 604 600 or complete this form.

February Newsletter from the H&L Estate

Our team have done us all proud yet again, demonstrating how we will always go above and beyond, in the care we provide. 

This month for example, with the weather being so wet, they have invested time in creating activities including our Valentines Day party and cocktail making class, which always brings out a smile in everyone.

Love in the air

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